Well my best guy friend just told me via fb that he doesn’t want us to txt anymore because he cant handel the emotional roulette he plays when his close friends dont respond at all, respond a day late, generally being flakey, or actually respond right away (a norman conversation).
I dont know where to begin. Of course I cried. I mean come on, one of my closest friends says he dosent want to txt me. But the bigger reason I was upset was due to his lack of communication.
Tell me its getting bad. Fuck, we’ve only txted a few times this summer and I have told him repeatedly. I. Am. A. Terrible. Txter! I gave forwarning that it has noting to do with the person texting me. I just get busy with other things. (You can tell I am in the anger stage of grief.)
The thing I am worried about is why he couldn’t have just told me. “Hey, your doing that thing that I really dont like. Could you knock it off. I’m your friend. Shape up.”
Lord forbid call or set up a skype time instead of texting.
I know I am at some fault here. He has told me he hates when ppl dont txt him back and I should taken that into stronger account. But hell man. Tell me that you are annoyed or hurt rather than just cutting the lines of communication. Because that leads to us having not gosh damn communication at all. Which usually turns into a friendship ending.
Having an ex friend a few years ago cut me out if his life with no warning, only to have him apologies 4 years later makes me paranoid of this situation.
Luckily I had missed a call from 2 other best friends 2 days earlier. I called the friends back soon as I saw the missed call. (Because ppl call for emergencies). But they both left me voicemails. They were hanging out with you each other and wanted to say hi. So after feeling really shitty for being stonewalled by a friend. I finally listened to the two voicemails and felt much better. Becuae I knew I had friends who loved me enough to chase me down and tell me “change the thing! You are our fiend. Its worth saving this friendship and im not leaving till you get your act together.”
Friends stick around. Friends talk. Friends tell you when your being an ass so you can be a better friend. Maybe I was a little hard of hearing but yell next time or say that your not just annoyed by txt. Say that you actually get hurt emotionally from this as well.
Just say something. Because I’m not giving up on you.